Why Do I Feel Stuck? How to finally free yourself from everyday boredom.

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It’s such a confusing period to be in when you feel stuck. You might know why you feel that way, but if you’re anything like me, you have no clue.

 

What’s hard is feeling stuck and not knowing how to move forward.

 

You fret, asking yourself:

“What if I still feel like this in a year?”.

“What if I can’t find what I’m searching for”

 

Let me tell you something first, your thoughts and worries are always worse than the end result.

I can’t give you answers on what to specifically do in your situation, that’s something for you to discover. What I can do is give you a fresh perspective, that with time will help you hone in on what will make you feel alive.

 

I want to start by explaining a time in my life when I’ve felt stuck. There are a fair few to choose from, but the one I’m choosing to talk through has a special place in my heart, as it was the first time I actually freed myself…

 

From the age of 18, I didn’t know what I wanted. I had 2 options, go to university and study a degree that I knew wouldn’t help me get a job...

Get an apprenticeship, giving me experience and a degree.

 

Long story short, I got neither of those things and was instead offered a job as a field sales representative around my hometown, driving about selling products from my car.

Picture this, a fresh 18 year old, full time salary, company car, living at home...

I had more disposable money than I knew what to do with. I’d travel at weekends to visit my mates at uni and spend a fortune. On top of that I'd buy lots of clothes, games and other bits I wanted, but to be fair to me, I was also financially sensible and saved up a lot of my income.

A year and a half goes by, and for the last 6 months of that job I had been feeling SO stagnant.

 

I was left thinking... what is it I actually want?

Is this really what life is like, work, home, sleep repeat?

 

I felt stuck, in work but also my personal life.

I had so much to give, so much life to breath and yet I felt suffocated.

I’d got to a point where I had to get out of the company I worked for, I had to live.

I sat down with my dad who talked me through my options, eventually settling on me trying to do a degree apprenticeship which I’d failed at achieving in the past.

Long story short I was successful, especially with the year and a bit experience under my belt, and I was due to start the apprenticeship late in the next year.

However this next part, that’s when it flipped.

I'd known that if I was successful, I’d have 6 months to pass between leaving my current role and starting the next.

Then the magic happened.

Christmas day came round. As usual, I opened all my presents and my stocking, yet this year there was one present that lit my heart on fire.

A simple gift, bought by my mum.

It was a magazine, featuring various trips abroad to Australia, Fiji, Philippines, with various boat trips, group travel and resort stays.

My eyes instantly settled on Australia, I’d loved videos of Aus online, the country, vibe, culture, everything was just what I needed.

Within a week, I’d booked a 7 week group trip to Australia.

That 7 weeks FLEW by and what I came away with was something so special. Memories, images and thoughts that still to this day play in my head, reminding me how absolutely unreal that trip was.

I was on the opposite side of the world, knowing no one, meeting random people from countries all over the world… I had never felt more free.

The person I became there was someone I am tremendously proud of.

The courage I had, the social skills I developed and the just outright fun I had tops no other event I’ve had in my life to date.

It absolutely smashed the anchors off me that I felt so strongly a few weeks before.

 

The moral of this story isn’t to drop everything and travel, you don’t have to want to travel to break free.

You have passions. Fires that get lit when you don’t expect it. They are what you should follow.

Every trip similar to that first venture abroad has re-lit that fire and one day, I’ll have the opportunity to go back again for longer and gain even more memories.

But here is the important part, it’s easy to go from being unstuck, to falling back.

For months after, I got really down that I was stuck in this new role but then I realised that that just wasn’t true.

 

You are always in control, you have the autonomy to create your own happiness everyday.

That’s what I’ve been practicing for the past 3 years since, that happiness and being “free” is not a destination, it is a process and something you build on every day.

Trying new things, creating more memories and refusing to lose sight of what you love is what will keep you on track.

 

That message is what keeps the anchors from forming round me again and whilst I still have 2 more years till I can go away again, I feel free, free in the knowledge that this is my choice, and I choose to make happiness wherever I am.

Trust your passions, follow your excitement and never let being afraid stop you from making a decision that you think is right.

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