Intro..
In this blog post, we speak about accepting hard truths. Sometimes in life, we just have to deal with what's been dealt to us and hopefully after reading this, you'll have a kinder perspective around these difficult truths.
The story...
It’s so hard to be completely and utterly yourself. Whether it’s in public, in the quiet of your bedroom and even in the distant parts of your brain, there can always be a front.
In public we want to be liked, we tailor our words, humour and basically our character to the group we are with. Multiple versions, all for different people, just so that we feel liked.
Afterward, we think about the day… the mistakes we made, the joke that didn’t land. We can self analyse so much all in the despair of not feeling liked enough.
In our brain, the very choices we make are out of fear of judgement.
We choose a safe job, it’s what mum and dad would want.
We choose to go out drinking, it’s what my mates will want.
We choose to spend that hard earned money on those designer clothes, it’s what might make me more attractive.
Every, single, decision, I can guarantee there will be some voice in your head that is someone else’s opinion and it’s trying to tell you what to do.
Sometimes it’s loud, sometimes it’s quiet but it seems to be always there.
Now, how do we silence this everlasting voice… maybe it’s not in the silence, but actually in the art of our choices.
1. You sit with the decision you want to make. You understand how you truly feel, is this what you really want.
2. You give it time, enough so that it’s not an impulse, it’s real, a thought through decision.
3. You give it love, you find a way for the choice to be emotionally connected to your heart.
If it’s not, then it’s not your voice.
Do you want that safe job, or does trying your own business light that spark?
Can you really only see yourself as "attractive" in those designer clothes, or are you worried you’ll just look poor.
Are you really going to spend all that money on drink that you don’t even like the taste of, or are you just trying to not be “boring”.
Now don’t get me wrong, I love to have a drink, love to look good in clothes and love being comfortable. You don’t have to be perfect all the time. What I want for you, is just for you to recognise your own voice, amongst all the other echoes in your head.
To recognise that some voices aren’t yours. You are just hearing your mum, an influencer online, a person who judged you for wearing those old trainers. Then once you recognise, understand it’s not real, your choices are your own, live a life that YOU choose.
SunTide
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